Sunday, June 14, 2009

My absence

Please forgive my absence recently. I may not be posting as much as normal for a while.

My Mom is not well and has a rapid onset of dementia. I have always been very close with my Mom. This diagnosis and what we will have to face is one of the hardest things that I have ever been through in my life. It is a cruel brain disorder that robs the family and the person with it of so much. Mom is only sixty years old.

Dad and I are the main caretakers of Mom right now. Eventually, I will be moving to Texas where my husband has been working for many weeks now.

Right now, I am here trying to get quality time with Mom while I can and she recognizes me and help support Dad too. I am still not well from my past surgeries and was overdoing it at first when Mom was in the hospital twice so I am trying to help but doing a two hours up and two hours in bed rotation all day.

Mom has started forgetting me and my sister's names and it has only been three weeks. She is very confused. It is heartbreaking but I have to try to be strong.

I am very thankful that I have a supportive husband and wonderful friends who have allowed me to talk when I was upset and cry with them as I am trying to cope with this. Thank you for listening and being here. It has helped me more than you can ever know.

4 comments:

Crochet Goddess said...

Hi, I am really sorry to hear about your Mother. I want you to know that my thoughts are with you and your family. I can't begin to know what you are going through. take care of your self. Theresa

Jorge said...

Having gone through this with my mom, I can somewhat appreciate how heavy a burden you are carrying. I hope your own health improves soon, and that you will be able to enjoy Father's day with your dad. Though he's been gone seven years, I miss mine very much.
Best wishes,
J.

Forsythia said...

I know what you're going through. Mom lived with us for nine years. The last two years were rough. It only gradually dawned on me that she was suffering from dementia. Good luck.

~Joy~ said...

Oh my dear~
How sad I feel for you and the family.
Spend all the quality time that you can with her. Even though she may not know you take every moment to heart. It's hard to see but in the long run you will be much stronger knowing that she is well taken care of.
Take care!
Love,

~Joy~